What do you do when you're feeling insecure?

We all get those nights where we feel gross, lonely and like everyone is out to get us. No matter what our sexuality, gender, size, relationship status or age everyone can have down nights from time to time. For me these usually happen when I know the people I'm closest to are out having a good time without me. Sometimes they come on randomly and it can be range from being sulky to crying into a tub of ice cream at four in the morning reblogging sad quotes on tumblr. 

When you're in a relationship this can make you think and feel some crazy things. Make you suspicious and think your partner is cheating. No matter how much you trust someone when you feel like crap about yourself you try and push it out to someone else. You might think they're being off with you or distant when in fact you just need more attention than usual, so I urge you, if you are feeling down and in a relationship tell your partner, be honest. There is no shame in asking you partner to be extra attentive on a night that you feel vulnerable. If for some reason they physically can't, arrange to see a friend or spend some time with your family. Even your pets can cheer you up when you're in this mood because you just want affection. You need confirmation that someone is happy to have you around. Even if it is your cat that you have you force to hug you. 

When I was single and I used to get these moods, it was different. It was easier to cheer myself up because I knew I was being silly but I also knew I had a reason to feel down. I'm not saying everyone who is single will get depressed about it but when you are single sometimes, if like me, you have low self esteem and anxiety, then you start to think about all of the reasons why you're single. When it's obvious, you just haven't met anyone that you're compatible with and attracted to but when it's late and you're sat there by yourself that logic goes right out the window. 

So we know it happens to the best of us and what I really wanted to talk about is the stigma behind how some people deal with it. Sometimes people like to vent on social media. Which is a perfectly healthy way of doing it. Sometimes though, people can be labeled as attention seekers, which of course they are! But why is that a bad thing. If you're feeling down and you know there are people that care about you whether it's internet friends of people you've known since you were in nappies, why can we not ask for a little bit of their time and effort to reassure ourselves and make ourselves feel loved. 

The point I'm trying to make is, if you're feeling that way, down, insecure, upset about everything then it's okay to rely on other people. People often say they don't want to burden their friends with their problems but you don't always need to deal with things yourself. Be there for each other and if you love someone love them a little bit more when you think they need it.